It's Autumn, the “season of mists and mellow fruitfulness” to quote Keats - a time of ripening and reaching fulfillment. Mmm, doesn’t that sound so
sexual!
It’s not an intense, fiery time of year though and I don’t advocate an overly intense approach to sex.
Too many people go too far too quick, rushing into it, without allowing the time for the ‘ripening’ in order to achieve real sexual fulfillment.
Truly awesome sex always takes connection, a 'sinking in' within oneself and with each other. It’s different from the rapid-fire approach to sexual
excitation, which is the more “normal” mode in this society. With this sinking in comes a ‘syncing in’, where you can let go and really feel each other,
really tune in - and for a while the two can indeed become 'one'.
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Sink In to Sync In
The Adolescent Male Masturbatory Model of Sex
For generations we raised our girl children to think they’re not sexual, that they shouldn’t be sexual, and if they were sexual - stoning or burning them
to death or locking them away in insane asylums. Women didn’t have a chance to explore their sexuality, and neither did their partners.
So, with no alternative, when a man married he basically kept on doing with his wife what he’d been doing with himself for years - masturbating. Since
puberty the adolescent boy had been stroking his penis as fast as he could until he ejaculated. So when he got a female partner, not knowing any better,
he kept doing that inside her.
Essentially men were masturbating inside their wives.
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Project 'Great Sex'
It's the new year, a time for committing to bettering yourself. What better area of life to commit to focusing on than your love life?!
Whether you're single or partnered, we can all focus on that fundamentally important contributor to health, happiness and well-being - your sexuality!
So I'd like to suggest you commit to a Year of Great Sex! Let's call it your 'Great Sex' Project.
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The Bedroom is for Expression, Not Suppression
Sex is one of the great forms of human self-expression. It's a place where creativity, physical movement, pleasure and joy can manifest, just like
the other forms of human expression - music, art, design, dance, cooking, sport, even writing.
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The Three Types of Sex All Couples Need
I like to divide sexual encounters in a long-term relationship into three types:
Simple Sex – short and comforting
Sensual Sex - luscious and bonding
Spicy Sex – exciting and adventurous
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Seven Benefits of Attending A LoveLife Couples Tantra Retreat
Taking a break together is always a good thing to do, helping you relax and rejuvenate and hopefully have some quality sexy time away from the stresses
of everyday life.
So why would you add a couples retreat to your time away? What are the benefits to you of going to one of my LoveLife Couples Retreats?
Well, where do I start?! Feeling the love and connection in the group and seeing the couples blossom is an experience that’s hard to put into words.
But I’ll try...
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Make Sex Your Hobby
What is a hobby? According to the dictionary it’s “an activity done regularly in one’s leisure time for pleasure.” That sounds like
sex to me!
We all know that it’s good for couples to have a mutual hobby - cooking, gardening, sport, travel, outdoor recreation, decorating, traveling, study.
It gives us something to talk about, to experiment with and to enjoy together.
You’re being intimate anyway, so why not give your sex life the same focus and attention that you give any hobby?
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Partnered Sex is Not Solo Sex for Two
…which means it’s not “getting each other off”.
Solo sex is about having an orgasm, experimentation, self-education or any number of things, but it’s not about sharing.
Partnered sex is about sharing pleasure. read more...
Third Level Love-Making
There’s a wise old saying about spiritual and personal growth:
First there is the mountain
Then there is no mountain
Then there is the mountain again.
What this means is that you have normality, then that disappears while you grow and experience its opposite, and then a new normality comes back again
as you integrate the experiences of personal growth.
This ’new’ reality is never the same reality as the one you had before - it might look the same to a casual observer but your experience of it is quite
different.
If we’re talking about sex and intimacy, and human sexual potential, then the process is the same as for spiritual growth. read more...
Sex Therapy & Couples Retreats- What to do if You have a Reluctant Partner
So often people contact me to say that they want to come in for therapy and coaching sessions, or that they want to attend one of my workshops….but
their partner doesn’t.
“How can I persuade him/her to come along?” they plead.
It’s a tricky one. You love your partner and you want to improve your sexual connection and through that your life together. You are willing
to open up to in private sessions, or expose yourself to some degree in a group situation (not literally, my workshops are decidedly clothes on!),
yet your partner is reluctant.
There are a number of reasons why your partner might be reluctant: read more...
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